How do I deal with an abusive ex from years ago sort of cyberstalking me?July 2016 - November 2016 I was in a “situationship” with this awful, awful person. Let’s call him Tom. I was 18 but had practically no dating experience, and Tom decided to take advantage of that and my obvious no self esteem. Tom manipulated me, sexually assaulted me multiple times, emotionally abused me, and spread rumors about me at our former university as a result. We only hung out 1-2 times a week but he would act like I was a burden to him, and never treated me well.Anyway, in early 2017, I gave him my last word and cussed him out, insulted him, and called him out on his abuse. Only for him to justify it and call me “mean”. Years later, I do not regret anything I said to him. He’s an awful person.In summer of 2017, I received harassing text messages from fake numbers, sl*t-shaming me and whatnot. My friend texted those numbers saying a police report will be filed, and the person stopped.Early fall of 2017, I received a phone call of someone cussing me out. Two months later, I changed my number.For some reason, I never suspected it was him. I thought they were some other bullies, although the phone call could’ve been. I don’t know.Years pass and nothing happens. I buried the memory of Tom and would try my best to not think about him or talk about him. Given how he treated me, I assumed he’d done the same. He ends up getting a long-term gf and they have a kid together.By December 2020, I have a burner account message me on IG. I get weird messages from it like “😘 do I still cross my mind?”, an attempt to video call me, then “don’t ignore me angel face”. Hours later, I get a BS apology “I just want you to know I really regret the past”. When I get these messages, I got very confused because I had no idea who could’ve sent me all those. I almost those that it was a prank. I sent “who is this? Bc I have 0 clue”. Then I realized it might’ve been tom, so I unsent the messages, then I blocked him. I check his IG from my finsta and find that he’s no longer with his baby momma.Later that night, I get a Twitter request. This time, the username is “tom3829462829” and the bio is “u know d*mn well”. Creepy!! I block that too, change my username, and end up in a depressive and fearful episode for days. All the memories came back.Today, I got an IG request from a catfish account. It looks like it was made a few days ago, and the account has no folllowers but follows about 144 people. I see that it’s mostly random girls across the country, but I recognize a few names. They’re girls I don’t follow, but I see that he USE to follow them on his personal account, back when we dated. I realize that account was likely him, or it’s a weird coincidence. I report the account and block, and it got removed quickly.Now let me tell you all what kind of person Tom is. He got kicked out of the university within our first year due to poor grades. He has sold fake dr*gs to people, which supposedly is deadly. He sexually assaulted me, and I’m sure there are many others. He has a criminal record for petty theft back in 2018. Surely, he is a terrible person and a lowlife. I ended up transferring to another university and graduated, and have come very far in every aspect of my life since we ended things. Surely, he’s delusional to think he has any chance with any decent girl.My mom and friend thinks he is a coward and won’t do anything, but should I be worried? He left me alone for years, but it may have been bc he was in a seemingly happy relationship. I don’t want to take it fort her and press charges or file a restraining order, but if he god forbid does more to annoy me, I just might. I never pressed charges for what he did to me years ago, but sometimes I wish I did.Has anyone dealt with this type of ex? Idk what to do or how to feel. I just feel very sad
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